Published: Redeeming Love For Run-Down Parents

I have tried my hand at writing a post for parents. Thankfully it was published on the Rooted Ministry Parents blog this week.

In the post itself I focus on how the Book of Ruth helps remind us parents that we are not the saviours of our children. It is not us parents who redeem them, it is the Lord. We can rest in the knowledge that God is working in our lives, in our parenting, and in our children. We can rest in his faithfulness, his sovereignty, and his redemption.

“Thankfully, the story of Ruth reminds us that in among all the tasks, night terrors, and tiredness, it is God who faithfully rescues our minds and hearts. Behind the daily grind of parenting there sits a God who seeks our hearts and the hearts of our children. He has his providential hand upon us, calling us into his care and comfort, and rescuing us from our own ineptitudes, sinfulness, and character flaws.”

You can read the whole thing here.

If you would like to read other articles I’ve had published elsewhere you can find them here.

11 Things: The Privilege Of Youth Ministry

When finishing up in any youth ministry role, paid or volunteer, I’ve always been struck by the privilege it’s been to have such a position.

There’s something ironic about finishing up in a role and then being overwhelmed with the sense of satisfaction and privilege for being in it in the first place. While doing the tasks and duties associated with the position we are often unaware of the the privileges. We feel the grind and experience the drag, but hindsight, as they say, is a wonderful thing.

I distinctly remember the feeling of concluding our time in Lebanon. The relationships built, the friendships formed. I remember saying goodbye and realising that it is unlikely I will ever see these people again. It was simply a privilege to meet them and be involved in their lives.

I remember how it felt leaving Canterbury Baptist. We’d been there nearly 10 years and I had made a contribution as a volunteer leader right through to being on staff. There was, and still is, joy, satisfaction, and a large spoonful of pride in what had been accomplished. And of course, there were challenges along the way. Some unbelievably hard. But the privilege of being in such a position is what I remember most.

When in the middle of it all it is easy to get bogged down in the day-to-day, week-to-week tasks that need to be done. The challenges are at the forefront of the mind, not the privileges. But with intentionality I believe fostering a sense of privilege during your time in youth ministry is vital for self-care, sustainability, and perspective.

The realisation of such a privileged position doesn’t have to happen once it’s all gone.

I have small children. And for nearly five years now I am often told by older and wiser parents, “It goes so fast, make sure you treasure every moment”. In the midst of parenting small children hearing the ‘treasure every moment’ thing can get on your nerves. But what these kindhearted people are saying is true. It goes fast, and there are numerous moments to treasure.

The same could be said for youth ministry.

Youth ministry is a privilege.


When you’re in it no one is telling you how much of a privilege it is. Conversations with other youth ministry practitioners usually centre around the challenges and the problems. But let me tell you that youth ministry is a privilege, you should treasure every moment (OK, almost every moment).

This is the final part in the ‘11 Things’ series. It’s been a journey, and we’ve touched on a number of subjects. Each post has explored an aspect of youth ministry that I wish I had known more of before entering this gig. I’ve mused on these topics, and gained clarity for myself, as I’ve thought through what would have been helpful to me over 15 years ago.

To finish this series, and capture the essence of what youth ministry is about, I think it is important to be reminded of the privilege it is to be in such a role.

With that said, here are five privileges I believe are important to recognise in youth ministry.

(1) The Privilege of Influence

A leader is someone who influences others. This can be done with a title, but in most cases this influence occurs through the giving and receiving of trust. In any form of youth ministry role, paid or volunteer, trust is given to you and it is a privilege to receive it.

Even more unbelievable is the fact that you have the opportunity to influence people for good. You become a voice in a young person’s life. A voice they respect and seek when making decisions or dealing with challenges in their life. You become someone they look up to, someone they seek to imitate.

Furthermore, the influence that those in youth ministry carry helps frame how students think about their faith–how they think about God. Youth ministry research suggests that a young person needs connection with five older adults to help make faith ‘stick’. These days it can be hard for a student to find that many older adults interested in intentionally investing in them. This is where youth ministry leaders are so vital, and where inter-generational ministry is a must. The more people in youth ministry the greater the likelihood of teenagers continuing in faith.

Here lies great responsibility and great privilege.   

(2) The Privilege of Partnership

Youth ministry isn’t done in a bubble, solely interacting with students.

Well, it shouldn’t be.

One amazing aspect to youth ministry is the ability to not only be part of a teenagers life but also the life of their family. Connecting with parents, siblings, and the extended family is a privilege.

The opportunity to celebrate with families as they pass certain milestones is a unique aspect to a youth ministry role. Whether it is entering high school, getting L-plates and P-plates, turning 18 or 21, graduation ceremonies or celebrating sporting, art, or music successes, the involvement in family life is a special benefit.  

And then once you hang around long enough you begin to take a more pastoral role with the parents as their kids move out, get engaged and married, and have children themselves.

What a privilege.

(3) The Privilege of Care

This is a massive one for me.

This week alone I could tell you story after story of the significant challenges young people have to face. Everything from the death of a grandparent, to a mental health diagnosis, to the separation of a family member, to the trauma of bullying, to the parent diagnosed with cancer, to the family member involved in a car crash, to the unhealthy home life, to the poor results at school.

Young people are dealing with a lot. Sometimes too much. But it is such a privilege to be one of the first people they message when things aren’t going well. To be someone whom they seek out and lean on when challenging times are upon them. To be a person who they trust enough to share their struggles in faith, home, and life.

The privilege of being there, of being present, is something that cannot be taken for granted.

(4) The Privilege of Teaching

Each week there are times for the opportunity to open the bible and pray with students.

For someone, young or old, willing to sit down for an hour or two and read the bible and pray with you is a phenomenal privilege. They could be doing something else with their time. Instead, they purposefully choose to meet and spend time learning and growing in their faith. The want to make connections between the bible and their lives and pray with others. 

This should blow our minds.

The opportunity to do this keeps you sharp in teaching faith. It makes you think through how to make the scriptures relevant and applicable to teenagers. It brings with it the responsibility to teach the truths of God and allow space for them to explore it themselves.

Having this chance to shape how people think about God and his Word in a deep and lifelong way is a privilege that makes me wonder how we actually get to do this.

(5) The Privilege of Ministry

The fact that churches employ people to help grow and lead their young people staggers me.

It has become normative in churches for the second staff appointment to be that of a Youth Pastor. For a church to do that is quite a statement. It speaks of their intention to invest and disciple young people. It speaks of the priority they have in students. It speaks of the high regard they have for the ministry to teenagers.

Most youth ministry leaders I know would be doing what they do even if they didn’t get paid for it. It’s the passion and heart they have for seeing those in high school come to faith and grow in faith that drives them. This, like anything, can be used and abused. Unfortunately, there are plenty of stories of this happening in churches around Victoria and Australia as we speak. But on the whole, it is a privilege to even have the opportunity to work in this sphere.

Having the opportunity to be employed in Christian youth work, to connect and disciple young people, is such a privilege. To see them grow and mature as people and people of faith is something money can’t buy.

I’m sure there are many other privileges to add to this as well. Some internal, some external. Perhaps you have more you could add to the list yourself. But if you’re involved in youth ministry in any form, whether it’s officially as a ‘Youth Leader’ or whether you happen to play in the church band with a 17-year-old and speak to them every so often, be reminded that it is a privilege to do so.

In all the ministry, in all the challenges, in all the things we do within the sphere of youth work we need to remember that it is a privilege to do what we do.


A while ago I wrote a post about what I wished I knew when entering youth ministry. This is part eleven of a series dedicated to elaborating each of those points. You can read part onepart twopart threepart fourpart five, part six, part seven, part eight, part nine, and part ten here.

Travelling With An 18 Month Old

Never travel with an 18-month old. If you’re contemplating it, stop contemplating. If you’re thinking about it, stop thinking about it. If you’re considering it, stop considering it.

I shouldn’t be so harsh. Our daughter travelled very well, even though she was completely smashed when we got there.

We recently travelled from Australia to Europe. Door to door the trip took over 30 hours, with brief stopovers in Singapore and Dubai. It’s a killer of a flight when you’re on your own, let alone with an 18-month old.

Now that I’ve recovered from the experience I thought I’d write a few comments about what I’ve learnt.

1. Kids Can Put Up With A Lot
Little Miss didn’t sleep on the first 8 hour leg, but fell asleep in the airport as we waited to board the next section of our journey. The sleep lasted 40 minutes in one of those baby wearing contraptions. On the second flight she managed to fall asleep from around 90 minutes and then she dozed a third time while waiting to board our third flight, after a four hour stopover.
Sleep’s important for any kid, any adult in fact. But seeing Little Miss have to deal with so little sleep for so long made me feel bad for her. I felt bad for putting her though it all. Yet, she survived and made it through and has since got back to her best. While this is simply one aspect of the what she had to put up with during the course of the journey it is the main one. She can certainly put up with a lot.

2. Airline’s Don’t Offer Enough Food For Infants
Because Little Miss is less than two years old she is classed as an infant and doesn’t get her own seat. Anyone who’s had an 18-month old will realise that this is just a silly classification. 18-month olds eat the house down, in a relative way, and Little Miss could down an adult meal if she tried. This being said we were never offered any food for her on the journey, not even an infant meal. I’m not going to name the airline but I think that’s pretty poor form. Poor poor poor. If you’ve decided to the reject the advice in the first paragraph of this post then I suggest you pack your own food, and a lot of it.

3. iPads Are Gold
Load it up with the good stuff – In The Night Garden, Peppa Pig etc – and let it roll. We don’t usually let Little Miss play with them but on this type of journey you have to let some things go. She sat quietly and well for at least 15 minutes because of these things, they’re a lifesaver.

4. Don’t Expect Any Sleep
When she doesn’t sleep we don’t sleep. Enough said.

5. Minimise Your Luggage
When you’ve got no time to yourself then there’s no point in having much carry-on luggage. About 90% of our carry-on was loaded up with toys, amusements and food for Little Miss. The more room for these things will means less for yourself, which you don’t need anyway.

What about you? How have you found travelling with an “infant”?

Around The Grounds (31/01/2014)

Around the Grounds is a list of articles or posts I found interesting this week. I hope you do too.

To Wives: Before You Were Mummy – With my daughter just over a year old this post brings up some good points about parenting and marriage.

The Distinct, Positive Impact Of A Good Dad – I want to be the best Dad I can be. I found this helpful and interesting in terms of statistics etc. Quote: “…great, and even good-enough dads, appear to make a real difference in their children’s lives.”

Jay-Z: A Poor Excuse For A Husband? – The article has a point. I don’t think I’d want my wife doing what Jay-Zs was…

Voluntourism: Mixing Vacations With Charity Work – This is why it’s important to have a comprehensive short-term mission policy.

Joy In The Home – A great little article about parenting and as the title suggests, joy in the home.

Unmarried Couples Going Away On Holiday Together. A post I’ve only been made aware of but something that speaks to the current trend among Christian young adults.

Stop Saying “Charity Begins At Home”. Melinda outlines some good reasons as to why this common phrase may actually be incorrect to use.

Around the Grounds (07/06/13)

Around the Grounds is a list of articles or posts I found helpful this week. I hope you do too.

Honour Killings – Robert Fisk highlights again and again the reality of “honour killings” throughout the Middle East and Asia. The evidence in overwhelming.

Writing and The Brain – Some interesting facts about how writing benefits the brain.

Over-sharing Parents Who Wrecked Facebook – A classic article about how much information parents share on FB. I’m particularly conscious of this now that I have a little one.

Blog To Get Your Next Job – Good reasons why you should begin blogging and have your own space on the net.

Millennials: The Worst, Most Entitled, Most Spoiled Generation in the History of Humankind? – Great article outlining how Millennials and Gen Ys are actually living.