Most of us know we should pray more than we do, and most of us have never really stopped to ask why we don’t.
A few years ago I signed up for prayer training, six sessions with an experienced pastor and mentor who led a group of us through the breadth of praying available to us in scripture, then walked with us as we prayed together and grew in it. It was as much experience as it was knowledge. Like most things in the Christian life, it turns out we need someone to teach us how to do this well. Jesus himself taught his disciples to pray through the Lord’s Prayer in Matthew 6:9-13. Evidently being trained in prayer is something we need as his followers.
In his recent book, Prayerfulness, Peter Adam outlines weaknesses that can creep into our praying or view of prayer. Using these weaknesses as a basis for this post and the next, I think it is a helpful corrective and challenge to us.
We Don’t Trust God Enough
One of the deepest weaknesses for many of us is that we lack real trust in God. In practice, many of us are practical deists. We believe in God, but we don’t quite trust his constant, sustaining rule over the universe. We assume he isn’t especially active in the world, or that even if we pray, he might not act. Without meaning to, we undermine his sovereign involvement in what happens around us, and end up trusting ourselves instead, as though everything depends on us.
How often do we go about our day without prayer, not even considering that it might change something? Anything!? We end up working for God rather than with his grace, praying to him out of duty rather than with his enabling. We forget that nothing happens apart from him. It’s a good reminder that when we pray we trust, and when we trust we pray. It’s like the man who comes to Jesus in Mark 9:24, we believe, but we need help to overcome our unbelief!
We Don’t Think It’s Productive
We swim in cultural waters that prize making the most of every minute. The technology we use trains us to move faster, work more efficiently, and produce more, whether that’s quicker meals, a fuller inbox cleared, or another project ticked off the list. Prayer runs against all of this.
It asks for intentional time away from what the world calls a good use of time. In fact, it flips our usual measure of time on its head. Prayer requires us to stop, to be attentive, and to take up a posture of worship before God rather than productivity. We might not see an immediate benefit in the hour after we’ve prayed, but that is never the point. The point is the relationship we have with our Heavenly Father, and there’s no more productive use of time than that.
Martin Luther once quipped that he had so much to do in a day that he needed to pray for three hours first just to get through it. I wonder if we’ve ever thought of praying with that attitude in mind?
We Make It Too Narrow
How often do we pray for the things going on in our own life, and neglect prayer for God, for the world, and for the many other ingredients prayer can hold? A good meal usually needs a variety of ingredients working together, and the same is true of a rich prayer life.
One of our weaknesses is how much weight we give to intercession alone, praying on behalf of others and ourselves. That matters, of course, but on its own it can become transactional, a running list of requests rather than a relationship. What about the other ingredients of prayer: praise, thanks, worship, confession, lament, trust and love? When our prayers stay narrow and close to home, so does our emotional engagement with God. Paul writes to Timothy at one point reminding him to bring petitions, prayers, intercession and thanksgiving for all people to God (1 Timothy 2:1). Paul clearly has more than just intercession in mind here.
I know I’m certainly prone to this. Missing in my prayers is often adoration, praise for God and his character, and certainly lament and confession are harder to find as well.
This is a great reminder to widen the range of our prayers and see how God might work.




