Category: On Leadership

  • Unity, Patience, and the Church: Lessons from Carlton’s Coaching Turmoil

    A recent article in The Age by Jake Niall (which may be behind a paywall) explores the inner tension at Carlton Football Club over the past three decades. The club was once defined by power and success then found itself in a cycle of division, instability, and impatience. Having had nine different coaches since 2000, multiple leadership changes at board level, and a struggle to perform on field, the article that Niall writes is a great case study in leadership, particularly for those in church ministry. 

    Obviously, professional sport and pastoral leadership operate in very different arenas, they do share some similarities, as I’ve written about before. Leadership struggles, the challenge of unity, the weight of expectations, and the temptation to look for a quick fix rather than embracing the slow and patient work of building something that will last. 

    A Divided House

    Denis Pagan, one of Carlton’s many coaches, described his tenure at the club as “an absolute nightmare”, primarily due to the fractured leadership: “Splinters everywhere… board level, administration level. The playing group was split.” It was a house divided against itself, as Niall writes. 

    Jesus’ words in Mark 3:25 speaks of this truism, “If a house is divided against itself, that house cannot stand.” This isn’t just true for football clubs; it’s true for churches as well. When leadership teams—pastors, elders, and deacons—are pulling in different directions, the whole church suffers.

    Paul understood this as well when he writes to the church in Ephesus to “make every effort to keep the unity of the Spirit through the bond of peace” (Ephesians 4:3). Unity isn’t automatic; it requires intentional effort. When a church operates more like a dysfunctional football club, where different factions vie for control, the focus shifts away from Jesus and his mission.

    Patience and the Slow Work of Discipleship

    Carlton’s downfall wasn’t just about division; it was also about impatience. The club became addicted to the idea of a quick fix—whether it was a high-profile coach, a big-name recruit, or a billionaire benefactor. As Malthouse put it, “This is going to take a slow burn to get right and it’s also going to take patience.” But patience was in short supply.

    Churches can fall into the same trap. We want fast results—spiritual growth that happens overnight, new programs that immediately bear fruit, discipleship that runs on a tight schedule. But faith formation, like rebuilding a football club, doesn’t work that way.

    Jesus consistently used farming illustrations to describe the Kingdom of God and the growth that happens over time. “First the stalk, then the head, then the full kernel in the head” (Mark 4:28). Paul says similarly about this patient approach to ministry, saying, “I planted the seed, Apollos watered it, but God has been making it grow” (1 Corinthians 3:6).

    Pastors, elders, and deacons need to embrace the long game of discipleship. There are no shortcuts. A healthy church isn’t built in a season or two—it takes years of faithful, consistent, and patient work.

    The Role of Leadership in the Church

    At Carlton, instability at the top had a ripple effect. Pagan noted that too many influential voices behind the scenes “wouldn’t have known a football from an Easter egg.” Leadership dysfunction filtered down to the players, resulting in a culture where no one was really set up for success.

    Churches can find themselves in a similar place. If the relationship between the pastoral team and church leadership is dysfunctional, the congregation feels its effects. Leadership in the church isn’t about control but about shepherding God’s people toward spiritual health. It reminds me of those words from 1 Peter 5:1-4, 

    “To the elders among you, I appeal as a fellow elder and a witness of Christ’s sufferings who also will share in the glory to be revealed: Be shepherds of God’s flock that is under your care, watching over them—not because you must, but because you are willing, as God wants you to be; not pursuing dishonest gain, but eager to serve; not lording it over those entrusted to you, but being examples to the flock. And when the Chief Shepherd appears, you will receive the crown of glory that will never fade away.”

    Ephesians 4:11-12 also describes the God-given role of leadership: 

    “Christ himself gave the apostles, the prophets, the evangelists, the pastors and teachers, to equip his people for works of service, so that the body of Christ may be built up.” 

    Leadership in the church exists for the nurturing of the people, not for power struggles or personal agendas.

    This is exactly how Jesus established his church. He didn’t appoint boardroom executives—he built his church on disciples who would faithfully shepherd his people. “On this rock I will build my church, and the gates of hell shall not prevail against it” (Matthew 16:18). The church belongs to Christ. It is grown through his Word, sustained by his Spirit, and led by those called to serve, not control.

    The Temptation of the Quick Fix

    Carlton’s desperation for success led to a flawed approach; new coaches, new strategies, new leadership—anything but patience and stability. As a result, they spent more time rebuilding than actually moving forward.

    We might be tempted to fall into the same mindset. A new program, a new vision statement, a new pastor—these things can feel like they’ll fix everything. But real transformation doesn’t come from quick changes, it comes from faithfulness.

    Jesus didn’t rush. He spent three years slowly forming twelve disciples, who still weren’t ready by the time of his crucifixion. Paul didn’t plant churches and expect them to mature overnight—he stayed, he invested, and when he moved on, he kept writing letters to guide them further.

    Carlton’s recent resurgence has come not from chasing instant success but from building long-term stability. Likewise, a healthy church doesn’t rely on the next big thing, it commits to the slow, faithful work of discipleship.

    A Different Kind of Leadership

    Carlton’s history serves as a warning. The church is not a football club, but if we aren’t careful, we can find ourselves running it like one.

    Instead, we are called to a different kind of leadership—a leadership rooted in unity, patience, and the long, steady work of building up the people of God. The ultimate model for this is Jesus, “who made himself nothing by taking the very nature of a servant” (Philippians 2:7).

    If we lead as Jesus led, if we remain united in purpose, and if we commit to the slow, faithful work of discipleship, we will see lasting transformation—not just in our churches, but in the lives of those we are called to shepherd.

    After all, the church isn’t chasing a premiership. We’re building something eternal.

  • Pastoral Ministry and AFL Coaching

    In a recent article in The Age, Caroline Wilson explores a cultural shift in AFL coaching, where many top candidates have turned down the West Coast senior coaching position to prioritise family and personal well-being. This made me reflect on the parallels between the pressures faced by AFL coaches and those in pastoral ministry. Though these two fields operate in completely different arenas, they do share a number of common challenges around leadership, sacrifice, and the weight of responsibility.

    The Weight of Leadership

    In both AFL coaching and pastoral ministry, the role of a leader carries significant weight. For coaches, this involves the strategic management of a team, guiding players toward success while being under the constant scrutiny of fans and media. For pastors, the responsibility lies in shepherding a congregation, guiding them in their faith, and providing wisdom during life’s challenging moments. The Bible speaks to this in Luke 12:48, where Jesus says, “From everyone who has been given much, much will be demanded.” This isn’t just about material wealth but applies equally to those entrusted with leadership—whether on the field or in the church. Leadership demands much, and with it comes the pressure to meet those demands faithfully.

    The Relentless Pressure

    Wilson’s article highlights the high-pressure environment that AFL coaches endure, where every decision is analysed and critiqued. Pastors, depending on the season, can also operate in a similarly intense environment. The spiritual well-being of a congregation rests, in part, on their shoulders. The Apostle Paul understood this pressure well, when he shares in 2 Corinthians 11:28 that beyond his external trials, he faced “the daily pressure of concern for all the churches.” This type of pressure is sometimes relentless and requires both AFL coaches and pastors to have a strong foundation—whether it’s in their strategy, their faith, their identity, or all of the above.

    Sacrifices for Family

    One of the themes highlighted by Wilson is the decision by many coaches to prioritise their families over the senior coaching job. For pastors, this is similar. Ministry demands can easily encroach upon personal and family life, leading to burnout if not managed carefully. It’s a delicate balance, where one must constantly weigh the call to serve against the needs of those closest to them. However, the decision to prioritise family reflects a biblical principle found in 1 Timothy 3:4-5, where leaders in the church are instructed to manage their households well, for if they cannot do that, “how can they take care of God’s church?” This is a reminder that commitment to church leadership is balanced with a commitment to family.

    Mentorship and Influence

    AFL coaches are often seen as father figures or mentors to their players, providing guidance not just in the sport but in life. As spiritual shepherds, pastors seek to guide their congregation toward deeper faith and worship of God. The influence they have is often more significant than we realise, helping to shape those who lead. In Proverbs 4:23 we read, “Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it.” For pastors, and perhaps coaches too, this is helpful wisdom; influence must flow from a place of integrity and care for those they lead. In a way, both are in the business of heart work—coaches on the playing field and pastors in the field of the soul.

    The Ultimate Sacrifice

    At the core of both AFL coaching and pastoral ministry is the concept of sacrifice. Wilson highlights how even lucrative and prestigious coaching positions are being passed over in favour of personal happiness and family commitments. In ministry, this sacrificial nature is a direct reflection of the gospel itself. The ultimate act of sacrifice is found in Jesus Christ, who laid down His life for the sake of others. Philippians 2:7-8 describes how Jesus

    “made himself nothing by taking the very nature of a servant, being made in human likeness. And being found in appearance as a man, he humbled himself by becoming obedient to death—even death on a cross!”

    This is the model for all Christian leadership: a life that prioritises the well-being of others, even at personal cost.

    Upon reflection, the challenges faced by AFL coaches are not entirely different from those encountered in pastoral ministry. Both roles require a balance of responsibility, the ability to endure pressure, and a heart willing to make sacrifices for the greater good. As pastoral leadership evolves, it’s crucial that those who lead do so with wisdom, resilience, and a deep commitment to the people they serve—always drawing strength and inspiration from the sacrificial love of Christ. This love, exemplified by Jesus on the cross, is the ultimate guide for anyone called to lead, whether in a sporting arena or a place of worship.


    If you’d like to read the full article from Caroline Wilson in The Age that inspired this post you can do so here (may be behind a pay wall).

  • 11 Helpful Books on Burnout and Ministry

    Read these. They’ll be helpful for you.

    Sacred Rhythms: Arranging Our Lives for Spiritual Transformation by Ruth Haley Barton

    Barton explores how to create a rhythm of spiritual practices that nourish the soul and bring a sense of peace and balance. The book emphasises the importance of solitude, prayer, and other disciplines to maintain spiritual vitality and avoid burnout.

    Managing Leadership Anxiety: Yours and Theirs by Steve Cuss

    Cuss addresses the common issue of anxiety in leadership, offering strategies to manage personal and organisational anxiety. The book provides practical tools to create a healthier, more effective leadership environment.

    The Unhurried Pastor: Redefining Productivity for a More Sustainable Ministry by Brian Croft and Ronnie Martin

    Croft and Martin challenges the conventional notions of productivity in ministry, advocating for a more sustainable approach. They provide practical guidance for pastors to slow down, prioritise their well-being, and maintain long-term ministry effectiveness.

    Pastoral Perseverance by Brian Croft and James Carroll

    Brian Croft and James Carroll strengthen pastors by pointing them to God’s word for help in facing the unique challenges of pastoral ministry in the modern day so that they will not merely survive, but stay, endure, and even thrive.

    Zeal without Burnout by Christopher Ash

    Ash addresses the risk of burnout in ministry, offering practical advice for maintaining zeal and passion without sacrificing personal health and well-being. The book emphasises the importance of rest, boundaries, and reliance on God.

    Spurgeon’s Sorrows: Realistic Hope for those who Suffer from Depression by Zack Eswine

    Eswine delves into the life and struggles of Charles Spurgeon, offering hope and practical advice for those suffering from depression. The book combines historical insights with pastoral care principles to support those experiencing mental health challenges.

    Emotionally Healthy Spirituality by Peter Scazzero

    Scazzero argues that true spiritual maturity requires emotional health. He provides a framework for integrating emotional and spiritual growth, offering practical steps to address emotional issues and foster a healthier spiritual life.

    Slow Productivity: The Lost Art of Accomplishment Without Burnout by Cal Newport

    Newport discusses how to achieve sustainable productivity without succumbing to burnout. He explores the principles of slow productivity, which prioritise meaningful work and long-term success over immediate results and constant busyness.

    Burnout: A Guide to Identifying Burnout and Pathways to Recovery by Gordon Parker

    Parker provides a comprehensive guide to understanding, identifying, and recovering from burnout. The book offers strategies for self-care, stress management, and developing resilience to prevent future episodes of burnout.

    HBR Guide to Beating Burnout by Harvard Business Review

    This guide compiles insights and strategies from various experts to help professionals recognise the signs of burnout and take proactive steps to address it. The book covers practical approaches to managing stress and improving work-life balance.

    The Ruthless Elimination of Hurry by John Mark Comer

    Comer addresses the problem of busyness, arguing that it hinders spiritual health and well-being. He advocates for a slower, more intentional life through practices like Sabbath, simplicity, and solitude to align more closely with God’s purposes and experience deeper meaning.

  • The Inadequate Youth Pastor

    As I stand in the front row of our church, waiting for the song to finish before I get up to preach, my heart is beating faster than usual. My mind is sending up invisible prayers like a professional boxer hitting the speedball. While on the outside I might look calm, inside is nothing of the sort. Nerves are one thing, but it’s actually the intense feelings of inadequacy that come before the preaching begins. Afterward, those feelings return as I stand praying during the final song, simply wanting to hide. Sometimes I acknowledge the feelings and embrace them, other times I am overwhelmed by them.

    These feelings of inadequacy are not restricted to the task of preaching. It applies to other areas of church life, including youth ministry and working with young adults. Whether it is meeting with someone one-on-one, leading leaders in planning our youth ministry and its culture, seeking to give wise advice to questions our high schoolers ask, or leading the week Bible study, I often walk away with a strong feeling that I’m inadequate for the role.

    The Inadequate YP

    Some smart person will tell me that I’m placing more emphasis on myself than on God at this point. That I’m not putting faith in God’s work through his Word, but rather seeking affirmation and positive feeling from my own performance. And while I imagine I am doing this to some extent, who doesn’t want to at least feel like they’re doing somewhat of a decent job at something they are called to? But considering the preparation, the prayer, and the ‘performance’ itself, the intensity of these inadequate feelings just doesn’t match.

    It is often said that we put more pressure on ourselves than we do others. And we expect we will be able to do good, high quality work, from the outset. No matter what role we have–youth leader, parent, student, worker–we all have feelings of inadequacy. But no matter how much positive feedback I might receive this week, no matter how much experience I recognise I have, no matter how much study or reading I do, and no matter how much encouragement I see within the ministry itself, I often feel inadequate in what I do.

    I suspect I’m not the only one in youth ministry feeling this way.

    At this point it would be worth heading toward a positive, uplifting, and assuring verse of Scripture to tell me, and all of us, that we’re not inadequate at all. But I’m not going to do that. Instead, I’m reminded of Moses in Exodus 3-4 as he lays out to God objection after objection on why he should not be the leader of God’s people, confront Pharaoh, and help them leave the bonds of slavery in Egypt. I can completely understand Moses when he says, “Pardon your servant, Lord. Please send someone else.” (Exodus 4:13).

    Evidently my pride and ego get in the way. There is no doubt. And now that I’m in my late-30’s, rather than my early-20’s, a little of the brashness and arrogance has been shaved away. But, those feelings of inadequacy still linger; like the old ladies perfume I was skunked by when receiving an awkward hug at morning tea after church.

    Sometimes I’m not sure what to do with these feelings of inadequacy. I can’t say I’ve found helpful answers from others in ministry yet. It seems everyone is battling with the same problem! But then again perhaps all one needs is a good rest and some down time.

  • 10 Tips For Leading Discussion Groups

    I don’t particularly like leading youth leader meetings where all we do is plan the coming term. To me, there needs to be something of substance in the meeting, something that can help us get better at what we do. At our most recent meeting I collected some thoughts around what makes for facilitating a good discussion group. Here are the 10 tips I came up with, ‘geniusly’ framed as an acrostic poem.

    10 Tips For Leading Discussion Groups

    1. Develop Rapport

    Quickly introduce yourself and gather everyone in. The best way to get people comfortable is asking them how they are, what they thought of the talk in general, and sharing something you found useful.

    2. Intentionally Listen

    You’re not there to simply tell others in the group your wisdom, you’re there to hear them share. When someone is speaking listen to what they’re saying and ask them follow up questions.

    3. Show Jesus

    Our topics and points in our talks should be centred on Jesus. Therefore, it would make sense for our discussion time to also include pointing to Jesus. This could be through mentioning another related Bible passage, or reflecting on how knowing Jesus has impacted you.

    4. Comfortable Silences

    We’re working with teenagers. There’s going to be awkward silences. Get comfortable with them. But, during this time always be thinking about another way you could ask the question or ask someone specifically in the group to share.

    5. Understand It’s A Growth Process

    Our discussion groups are a place, we hope, where people will learn and grow. But, realise it won’t all happen on one night. The ongoing nature of these groups, and the culture we foster in them, helps facilitate growth and maturity in life and faith.

    6. Share Your Stories And Heart

    Those in your group are wanting to know your perspective or your experience. As leaders we have a great opportunity to share something of ourselves. If you can think of an example of how the topic for discussion is something you’ve wrestled with before then share it.

    7. Simple Questions

    Ask simple and clear questions. Avoid confusing questions that are long and have different aspects to them.

    8. Involve Everyone

    Notice who is and isn’t talking. When asking a question sometimes it is good to ask someone specifically to share.

    9. Opportunity To Challenge

    We have an opportunity to challenge the thinking and behaviours of those in our groups. Don’t shy away from the challenging question. Even the simple question ‘Why?’ can do the trick.

    10. No Wrong Answers

    People should feel comfortable enough to share without being ridiculed or laughed at. Through your facilitation those in the group can sense whether it is safe for them to share. When someone does share we want to affirm them and thank them for sharing, even if we believe what they have said isn’t quite right.

    Would you add anything? (But realise, that if you do add anything you’ll ruin a beautifully constructed acrostic!)